the fact of the matter is babies change everything. What once was a clean house with beautiful things soon becomes the most expensive toy box ever. We are constantly putting away toys, which are immediately taken out and thrown into different areas of the house. The other day, I found one of my son’s number blocks behind the rocking chair in his room. The rest of the blocks? They were in his playroom on the other side of the house!

Working with your partner is the key to keeping your sanity on the days when you’ve just about had it with the rest of the world. Sometimes even trying to work with your partner is a pain in the neck. There will come a day when you will argue over dishes, folding the laundry, or even whose turn it is to change the poop diaper. I personally think serving as the kid’s toilet for nine months should get moms a pass on poop diapers…that might just be me, though.

No one ever really wins in the battle over chores. Inevitably, someone ends up angrily doing dishes, wishing there was a way to 1. slam the dishes without breaking them and 2. slam the dishes without waking the walking, talking, eating, pooping tornado that is your toddler. Smothering your spouse with a pillow is also not an option (there are no show tunes in prison).

It’s our prerogative as moms to ensure the little sh*t gets done. The food gets put away, the stove gets wiped down, and everyone is tucked in all snug for the night. We just can’t do it alone. It doesn’t matter if you stay at home or work; everyone needs help.

As we continue this crazy routine called adulthood and parenting, you must continue working hard to find the balance. It’s not easy. Nothing ever is. It’s also not a constant. The only constant in life is change. As we change, we must adjust our stance on the tightrope to keep our balance.

All we can do is try. Try not to kill each other. Try to keep all the toys in the toy box, or at the very least, in the same freaking room. And make our very best love our kids with everything we have. Like my BFF4L (best friend for life) keeps telling me: keep having the hard conversations, and we’ll find the right balance for everything.