TSM Book Club Book #10: Born A Crime by Trevor Noah

Started: February 24th
Finished: February 28th
TSM Rating: 5/5

Phew. That’s the first word that came to mind when I closed this book a moment ago. Probably because it finished with the most harrowing of stories: his mother being shot in the head by his stepfather…and SURVIVING.

When we learn history in school, we get broad strokes. However, history is nuanced. It is lived and experienced by every living thing on this planet every single day. We can learn history by speaking to those who lived it. Born A Crime is basically Trevor Noah giving a history lesson on late-stage and early post-apartheid through the lens of his life. There is so much underlying trauma because of the political situation in the country, on top of everything he had to deal with, growing up as someone who wasn’t supposed to exist.

He speaks about his mother and father being unable to walk down the street with him because it would look suspicious. Not being able to make friends because he didn’t know where he fit in.

I thought about it from a parents’ perspective, and my heart broke thinking of my sons feeling so outside the world around them. My biggest fear as a mom is my kids not finding their place and their people.

Luckily, despite all the insanity and instability in South Africa and in his home life, Trevor Noah found his way and became a star. He was able to rise above his circumstances and make life better for himself.

The book is funny, profound, and enlightening. I knew things about apartheid, but I didn’t understand the nuance of apartheid. All the world knows is segregation, violence, and Nelson Mandela. There is more, and there is depth.

This is why books from all perspectives are important.

TSM Book Club Book #9: Honey Girl by Morgan Rogers

Started: February 17th
Finished: February 24th
TSM Rating: 4/5

Quarter-life crisis. Complete debilitating fear that every decision you’ve ever made was wrong. Trying to prove yourself in a world that doesn’t want to try and understand you. Also, finding a love so big and scary you need to run away from it.

Grace Porter is at a crossroads in her life. She’s finally finished school, getting her PhD. Now she has to get a job in her chosen field — astronomy —and everything goes terribly wrong. When she crashes and burns her first interview, everything that she’s suppressed over the last decade finally catches up to her. So much so that she’s does something so rash as to get married to a woman she just met, Yuki, on her graduation trip to Las Vegas.

The way Morgan Rogers writes about Grace — Porter as she called by everyone in her life — and Yuki’s connection is so lyrical and enchanting. It’s the best part of the book.

As Grace begins to confront her future, she also begins to open her eyes and see all the things she’s missed in her singular focus on the plan that she had laid out for herself, but also by her strict military man father, who everyone, including Grace, refers to as Colonel.

I couldn’t help but feel frustrated for Grace throughout the whole book, though. Her parents failed her in so many ways. There’s one character in the book — Miss Debbie — who works for Grace’s father and who feels like she can speak to Grace in any way she wants to. I think that’s the part that made me the angriest. It’s not clear if Colonel knows how Miss Debbie treats Grace and condones it or if he’s ignorant to it and Grace doesn’t tell him because she is so afraid of disappointing him.

On some level, everyone in the book is on their own mental health journey. The story is about the thing we do to please everyone else and confronting what that can do to us. It’s about friendship and the family that you chose. It’s about learning to be there for those who love you and being there for yourself. It’s about putting yourself first, but also supporting the people who choose to support you.

TSM Book Club Book #8: Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Started: February 10th
Finished: February 17th
TSM Rating: 4/5

This story was so consistently heartbreaking that I wasn’t sure how I would feel by the end.

For 307 pages, we live in the head of 15-year-old Kambili, a girl from a devoutly Catholic, Nigerian family. While a pillar of the community, her father is incredibly emotionally and physically abusive toward Kambili, her brother Jaja, and her mother. He’s abusive to the point where they are all afraid to express any emotion. At one point on the book Kambili said she doesn’t ever remember laughing and wouldn’t know what her laugh sounds like.

Through all the repression and fear, Kambili still desperately wants and strives for her father’s approval. Even after she and Jaja spend time with her father’s sister and her children, and they see what the world could be like beyond their religious oppression, Kambili still holds on to the belief that she is nothing without her father’s approval.

Over the course of the story, we see both Kambili and Jaja transform in their own ways to grow beyond their father. The way Achidie describes the physical changes in Kambili and Jaja as their personalities evolve is like watching flowers bloom.

It was an overall beautiful story of moving beyond what you know in order to find who you are. Changing your surroundings to change your mind set and breaking ties to move you forward, while strengthening others to find strength in yourself. A story of the things you hold on to in order to survive even in the most hopeless circumstances.

TSM Book Club Book #7: Fake It Til You Bake It by Jamie Wesley

Started: February 6th
Finished: February 9th
TSM Rating: 5/5

This book was so much fun. I loved the banter between the main characters — Jada and Donovan — and I also loved that they were honest with each other from the very beginning. I know that it’s a popular romance trope, but I hate it when characters hide things from each other that will inevitably blow up in their face when the truth is revealed. And this is coming from an AVID watcher of Hallmark Christmas movies! So much chaos that can be avoided with a single conversation!

Jada and Donovan are polar opposites, but their personalities complement each. In my last review, I mentioned that I didn’t like doubting whether a couple would last — a Happy-For-Now vs. a Happy-Ever-After — this one, like Seven Days in June, felt like a HEA.

I also love the setup for her next book!

TSM Book Club Book #6: Seven Days in June by Tia Williams

Started: February 1st
Finished: February 6th
TSM Rating: 4/5

Dark. Melancholy. Isolated. Bright. Funny. Hopeful.

Those are all the things I felt while reading this book. Tia Williams really gets to the heart of what life can truly feel like when you have no one to rely on but yourself. She also shone a big shiny light on what it feels like to find the one person that truly gets you. How whole that can make you feel when you have and how hollow you can be when you lose it.

Shane and Eva are two very flawed characters. They aren’t shiny and bright like most romance/women’s fiction novel characters can be. And their dark is depths of hell kind of dark, but they are endearing because of their ability to endure. Their unbridled love and passion for each other are the kinds of things that teenage love affairs are made of. The seven days they spend together are all angsty, gritty, horny stuff that makes up the best teen romances.

The levelheaded maturity they show in the end really gets me. Sometimes I read these books that are all about the HEA, but I finish them thinking, These relationships would NEVER actually work in real life. At least not without A LOT of couples therapy. This one, though, I think could go the distance. And I liked that. I liked the feeling I got finishing this book at 3:30 in the morning — when both my toddlers wake up and fall back to sleep, but I’m now WIDE awake, I read. It felt like, These crazy kids might actually go the distance.

I liked that feeling. I want more of that feeling in my books. I’ll pick up a few more Tia Williams books, chasing this high.